As humans we face problems day in and day out. This is perfectly normal. However, we often forget that our problems are actually our life lessons. We tend to ignore or run away from our problems instead of dealing with it. Again, this is a natural defensive reaction. Sure, we can blame so many factors when problems occur. Our friends, our surroundings, our work partners, or anything blamable. One thing that you always have to remember is actually look back to yourself. Why? Simply because we can be the one causing the problems as well. It's just that because we have our own ego, we think that we are never wrong.
Self reflection is something that you should make a habit. I do it on a daily basis every night before I take a ride to Slumberville. I always try to reflect everything I do from the moment I woke up till my reflection time. Why at night? Simple, you are mostly done dealing with the problems and you are more objective. This way you can judge problems better.
I usually ask myself a few questions in dealing with my problems. The questions are:
- What did I do wrong?
- What can I learn from it?
- How do I prevent it from happening again?
- Can it be improved?
- What side effects can occur?
- What's the effect to my life?
- What's the effect to m loved ones?
Those questions help me learn. I learn and try to improve myself everyday. By learning you can improve yourself, improve your life, and improve others as well.
Learning about life is a never ending lesson. Everybody needs it but not many know how to. Life is dynamic, and all you can do is learn and adapt. Try doing the self reflect daily and see how it can improve you as a person. Good luck!
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