Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Expecting The Unexpected

Surprised with my picture? Me too. For the first time in my life I have hoses going all over my body, yet I'm only 26 going 27 in 2 months time.

Did I ever expect this? Never! I'm having some problems breathing and these hoses help me breathe. It's unpleasant and stressing to see yourself turning from a normal human being into a cyborg like creature (okay that one I was a bit exagerrating hehe).

Still with this condition I can be thankful and learned some lessons. I thank God for creating the inventors of these machines helping me so I can still survive to see my beloved wife and child and hopefully our child to be born in a month's time.

What did I learn?

First lesson, pay it forward! Prepare yourself with contigency plans. Think of the worst that can happen to you and how you can reduce the risk incurred. I survived it to thr doctor last night because of this. I'm riding a motorcycle in a bad breathing condition but still able to survive because I prepared the shortest path to the doctor from various roads I go through daily.

Lessson number two, the best thing you can do in crappy situations is trying to enjoy it. It's quite stressful with all these hoses attached but I'm trying to enjoy it. I know that getting stressed with it will only cause things worse.

Last and most important lesson. Get help at first indication. I failed at this point badly simply because I ignored continuous coughing symptoms happenning before. Now here I am lying in a hospital bed, powerless. Had I checked my condition before, I may be having more valuable time spend with my family and being productive at work.

But then again as I've mentioned before, I thank this situation for making me a wiser person and I'm able to value the time I have with my loved ones more.

So, from now on, I'll always be expecting the unexpected.

How about you?


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Thursday, October 28, 2010

Sebuah Renungan Untuk Hari Sumpah Pemuda

Jakarta, 28 Oktober 1928

Kami poetera dan poeteri Indonesia, mengakoe bertoempah darah jang satoe, tanah Indonesia.
Kami poetera dan poeteri Indonesia, mengakoe berbangsa jang satoe, bangsa Indonesia.
Kami poetera dan poeteri Indonesia, mendjoendjoeng bahasa persatoean, bahasa Indonesia.
Pada suatu hari, 82 tahun yang lalu saat negara kita masih dijajah, para pemuda pejuang berkumpul di Jakarta untuk melaksanakan kongres pemuda. Pada kongres tersebut diikrarkan sumpah pemuda, sebuah janji setia para pemuda bagi negerinya yang mengakui bertumpah darah yang satu, berbangsa yang satu dan berbahasa persatuan yang satu. Titik tersebut dalam sejarah bangsa Indonesia menjadi salah satu tonggak penting dalam perjuangan bangsa Indonesia dalam meraih kemerdekaan.

Kini, 82 tahun setelahnya, yang terjadi seperti kebalikannya. Saat kita sudah merdeka dan rakyat bisa seluruhnya menikmati kemerdekaan dan berkarya untuk kemajuan bangsa, rakyat kita malah seperti mengalami kemunduran signifikan dalam hal persatuan.
Coba anda renungkan, apabila kita datang ke suatu pertemuan maka kita akan dapat melihat dengan jelas terbentuknya grup-grup kesukuan yang mengelompok sendiri dan bukannya berbaur. Seringkali juga kita temukan suatu suku yang berkumpul akan membicarakan hal-hal yang menurut mereka adalah kejelekan dari suku lainnya. Hal ini cenderung menimbulkan perpecahan.

Isu SARA yang seharusnya tidak dibesar-besarkan malah cenderung menjadi muara utama dalam menyikapi permasalahan yang dihadapi. Masih segar dalam ingatan kita akan bentrok yang terjadi di Tarakan, Kalimantan Timur. Awalnya bentrok tidak diawali konfilk antar suku. Tetapi, kemudian bentrok menjadi meluas karena mudahnya bangsa kita yang telah bejanji berbangsa satu pada tahun 1928 dalam menghubungkannya dengan masalah kesukuan. Konflik demi konflik antar suku dan antar agama telah sering kita alami di negara ini tanpa ada yang menyadari suatu hal yang sebenarnya penting.

Apakah dengan menjelek-jelekan suku atau agama lain akan menyelesaikan masalah-masalah besar yang ada di negara kita? Bukankah sebagai suatu bangsa yang besar, seperti yang selalu kita agung-agungkan, kita seharusnya memelihara keragaman dengan penuh rasa hormat-menghormati?

Terkadang memang sulit untuk menghentikan kebiasaan-kebiasaan di atas karena sejak kecil kita sudah dibiasakan berada dalam masyarakat yang menjunjung tinggi kesukuan. Terkadang masyarakat kita, dan mungkin mayoritas, lebih bangga akan sukunya daripada negaranya. Akan dibawa kemana negara ini bila mentalitas seperti ini dipertahankan?

Kaum muda Indonesia, sudah waktunya kita berubah untuk negara kita. Mulailah hilangkan rasa kesukuan dari diri kita sendiri. Banggalah menjadi bangsa Indonesia lebih dari rasa bangga terlahir di suatu suku tertentu karena apabila negara ini tidak ada, mungkin suku anda belum tentu akan terus bertahan. Mulailah berubah dari diri anda sendiri. Jadilah contoh hidup bagi pemuda lainnya di sekeliling anda. Apabila kita mampu merubah diri kita sendiri maka kita akan mampu merubah masyarakat.

Renungan ini saya tulis sekedar untuk mengingatkan anda tentang bangsa kita sendiri, bukan menghakimi, bukan menyuruh. Renungkan dan temukan sendiri pandangan anda tentang bagaimana seharusnya kita berbangsa dan bernegara.

Ingatlah bahwa kita semua adalah sama-sama bangsa Indonesia, apapun suku, agama, ras dan golongannya. Jangan biarkan perjuangan para pemuda 82 tahun yang lalu sia-sia

Lakukan hal ini sekarang juga!

Untuk Indonesia, untuk anda, dan untuk masa depan kita semua.

Salam hangat,

Fauzan Erich Emmerling
Pemuda Indonesia

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Thursday, October 21, 2010

Falling Down & Getting Back Up

One of my personal philosophies is:
When you're up, reflect back to the times you're down. That should keep your feet in the ground.
 I always picture back my struggling times back when I was still in university. Times when life was a lot harder and the world always seemed to come to an end for my life. Every day I woke up asking God if He would make the day easier than before.

But then after I got my first job at a learning center, things started to improve. I graduated and took my master degree and things got even better. I moved to another company and got better positions. But then, the wheel starts it's down turn and my life started going down again. I got some problems at work and lose my job. But then I did not blame the world because I believe that things will take turn and this is my turn to hit the ground again. Also I thank God because now I can concentrate on my master studies.

I started concentrating on Emfeld and got some projects to support my life. Life's still hard though. Then I graduated and got a job at a big 4 firm. Things then started to go up again, way up! I got married. That, I considered as a new life. Then we were blessed with the birth of our daughter. And I got a new job at a large company in the financial services industry.

Then comes this recent moments when careless decisions were made and things got a bit more harder than it used to be. Things got harder for me and my wife as we struggle for the survival of our very own small but happy family. Through my experience I learned that these are the times that I have to go through to be better.

The philosophy taught me to always remember the hard times for two things. One, that the hard times are always waiting around the corner and you'll have to be careful and really think before you act. Two, that the hard times will always be passed if you and patient and maximize your effort. Keep that mentality, and hopefully you'll be able to go through life's hardest storm.

And I know I'll survive this storm.



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Friday, October 15, 2010

Taking A New Step

I finally installed Linux in my beloved Acer notebook.

After almost 3 years running only on XP, yesterday I installed Backtrack 4 R1 to accommodate my needs in testing the security framework on my web applications.

Using Linux is actually not a pain in the ass (just like what Microsoft lovers say). I like windows for its simplicity, graphical ability and the GAMES. But I like Linux for it's flexibility, python friendliness, virus free environment, and how it's speed plus stability in surfing the slowy (not speedy) Indonesian internet connection. Now, I have both running on dual boot in my laptop to meet all my needs.

So, when you think you're satisfied enough with your windows, try switching for a while to Linux. Choose simple distros like ubuntu and you'll be amazed of what you can do.



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Thursday, August 26, 2010

On Hacking: How To Prevent

Hacking is the biggest threat in the web environment nowadays with millions of attacks daily to major sites such as Google, Yahoo!, and mostly Microsoft. Being a website developer, I need to learn how to hack and how to have the hacker way of thinking. What for? Simple. I need to know the vulnerabilities of the web I'm developing. This is mostly known as ethical hacking.

There are various hacking methods that people use nowadays. Here are some examples:

XSS/CSS (Cross-Site Scripting)
This attack exploits people's ignorance towards the links they're clicking. The link can redirect to another site aimed at getting important information. So, you might want to be careful and check before you click. This is also known as exploit and this problem is still faced by big players like Facebook, MySpace, etc.

Brute Force Attack
This is the most traditional hacking attempt known by mankind. The attack is simple, the hacker will input a large number of possible password combination and wait untuil the ID unlocks. Nowadays, this attack is automized so the hacker can wait and relax. To prevent this you can limit the number of bad login attempts before the account is locked. Another way to do this is by setting specific time interval between bad login attempts. This way, brute force attacker can not put a lot of combinations at one time and preventing them from accessing the site.

SQL Injection
This is also an old form of hacking attacks. Doing it is simply by inserting parts of SQL string that would resulted in valid conditions. The below string can be used for example:
' OR 1=1;--
The string works well for MySQL database and will set whatever condition you state for SQL query to always be true. To prevent it simply filter the input and treat it not as part of the query string but as text input to get results.

Social Engineering
Putting your information on the internet? Be careful because hackers attack with social engineering. Using the information found on the net, hackers can create your profile and gain advantage from it. For example, knowing your birthday can indicate a password possibility of getting your password because if you're not aware of how to make a good password, usually your birthday is the easiest password to use. Well, that and your mom's name hehe. They can also act and try being your frined to gather the info. So, the only way to prevent it from happening is by limiting you information exposed publicly in the net and also be careful when befriending someone online.

Of course there are many things you can do to hack. If you can do it, do ethical hacking instead of destructive acking. Why? You'll get more money and you dont have to be afraid of the cops. So, happy learning guys and be careful on the net. It's a warzone out there.



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The information in this blog post are just basic information and concepts. For complete undrestanding, try googling ethical hacking and learn or get a training. I support ethical hacking!!

Saturday, August 14, 2010

Miracles In Our Lives

Whenever I feel gloomy about my life, I always try to look back at things that happened in my life. I remembered that there were hard times when I feel like nothing else could be worse than my life. Times when all you do is wrong and you can do nothing about it. When that kind of time happened, sometimes I wanted to run away and hide. But then, something miraculous happened and everything goes back on track. It's like God always want to show us that if you're patient enough, when you've reached your limit, God will always show you a way out.

Most of the people that I know don't really believe in miracles because they usually ask for miracles without trying. That is something wrong according to me cuz actually God wants us to try first. Miracle comes in various ways, even ways that you'd never thought of.

I remembered my late brother whenever I remember about miracles. I remember when he was jobless and really needed some money. What he did at that time was he put his money on lotto. And miraculously, every time he needs the cash, he always got something out of it. There's this one time when we were at the church (I was a Christian) and my brother asked me, "I wonder what God actually think about gambling." I answered, "What about it?" He then said, "God forbids us to gamble, it's stated clearly in the ten-commandment. But every time I'm in real need of money and I gamble, I always win. Is it really a sin? I mean He knows that I need the money and He definitely knows that to Him it's a sin. Why did He let me win? Are there special conditions when you are actually allowed to do those sins in order to survive? I prayed before I gamble and asked Him to help me and He always did. What do you think?" I answered, "Well, I believe that God gave His miracles to you but He works in a very mysterious way…"

Judging from that experience I believe that God actually pay attention to each of us, even to those who think that God always ignores them, and even to those who doesn't believe in God. Have you ever been in that kind of condition where everything was so bad and suddenly, without even noticing, you find a way to get you out of your problems.

There are many types of miracles in our lives. It could be something that pops up whenever you're in need, it could be something you cherish in your life, it could be anything. To me, a miracle is God's greatest gift, something special that I would never ever trade with anything else in my life. The people around me, my close friends, my extended family and especially my wife and my children are my miracles. You might think that it's not but hey, when you have them around you, you can face anything. You'd have something to hope for and you'd definitely have something to live for. Is that miraculous to me? I'd definitely say yes.

So what am I trying to say? Simple, be thankful to God and always keep on trying cuz I believe that god is paying attention to us and help us when we've reached our limit. Also, don't try to look for miracles in big and complicated things because sometimes it comes in simple things. And sometimes, sometimes, actually you already have that miracle, it's just you don't see it. So, look around and be thankful…

So, do you believe in miracles?


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This post is dedicated to my late brother Gustl Eberhard Ardjuno Frauenfeld. May you rest in peace. Thanks a lot for this lesson.

- Those who lived in the memory of their loved ones are not dead, only far away. Those who die are those who are forgotten - My Mom -

Friday, August 13, 2010

Together Forever

Since the first time I saw you
You gave meanings to my life
And since that time
I want to live my life with you

And now we walk hand in hand
Towards our future together
Thank you my love
You've chosen me

To live this wonderful life with you

Thank you my love
I only want you
To always be by my side through this life

Only with you
For all my time

dedicated to my wife, Oktavia Nengsih...
I may not be perfect, but I'll always do my best for you...
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Thursday, August 12, 2010

Give Your Mind Some Fresh Air

Life nowadays can be such a big burden to our minds. The bills we need to pay, the pressure at work, disputes with friends and many other things are really getting on our nerves. Most of the times we can not think clearly because our minds are polluted with those things.

What do we need to do in that situation?

Give your mind some fresh air. Take a break from whatever you're doing to do things that does not require heavy thinking. I'm not saying that you should do your hobby because maybe your hobby is creating program codes (sounds familiar?) and that requires a lot of heavy thinking. Do simple things like reading comic books or light jokes. Meditate if you like it. Do some crazy non thinking sports (not chess for sure) like bungy jumping or paragliding. Be brave and explore the possibilities when you're not thinking.

Why do we need this?

Simple. Your mind needs to rest to get a better feel of yourself. When my mind is filled with all those heavy thoughts I inline skate aggressively to let the steam out of my head. Sure, I'll be extremely tired with some bruises all over my body. But, my mind gets the fresh air it requires to stay alive. I can maintain my performance at work and I keep on feeling good about myself. That, my friend, is a good thing.

So, whenever you feel that too much burden is being put on your minds, take a break and give your mind some fresh air.
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Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Enterring Ramadhan

Once a year, the holy month of Ramadhan visits us to remind us of the good way of living our lives. We're reminded what hunger feels like and also to help others around us.

Every year, I always welcome Ramadhan as a chance to rearrange my life in a good way. Hope this year will be as blessfull as it always has.

Enterring the holy month, from the depth of my heart, I ask for forgiveness from all of you for all the mistakes I've made. My this holy month be blessfull for all of us. Happy Ramadhan everybody!!!


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Friday, July 9, 2010

Mindset & How it Affects Our Lives

I was raised in a family based on two different cultures. My dad is a German and see things the European way. On the other hand, my late mom was an Indonesian raised in thick Javanese culture and educated in a European schooling system.

With all those family facts, I grew up in Indonesia, a country with various diversities and contrasting customs and mindsets, sometimes even different districts have different customs. Unfortunately, people raised in these different customs tend to have a mindset which sees differences as a bad thing. For example, marrying someone from a different cultural tribe is not approved simply because the different cultural traits and habbits. I don't know what's causing this but basically it's in the people themselves. Why? Simply because at school we were taught to appreciate and respect differences. But, the mindset taught at home created a mental barrier that blocks people from seeing things objectively. This way, you,re actually creating barriers and limitations to your own potentials.

I have to thank my parents because they taught me to have an open mindset since day one. My parents hold different believes, dad's a Christian and mom's a Moeslem, and that's never a problem for them with all the beauties that lies deep within. They are from different races and cultures buat those things are never a problem. With that, I tend to live my life appreciating the beauties, including the different mindsets people hold, and I always try to eliminate the barriers and limitations imposed to me by my surroundings.

I wrote this post to ask you all to think again and recreate your own mindsets because most of your mindsets are drilled into your heads by your parents. I'm not saying that your mindsets are wrong it's just that you have to know the fundamentals of those mindsets. You have to know why something is wrong or right, why things happen, and why a certain judgement takes place. Basically, you have to form your own mindset so that you can find limitless potentials deep within yourselves.


It gives you more strength in dealing with the ups and downs of life. You will always try to view things with the mindsets you have to find answers to your questions. When you dont create your own mindset, there might come times when you cant find answers because you simply can't answer the big "WHY".

I'm not saying that by having your own mindset then you'll instantly be able to deal with all the questions. By forming your own mindset through learning about yourselves and the environment and through the education you've gone through, you'll have stronger foundations and a stronger grip and an oxygen to hold on when life takes you to the bottom of the deepest sea of problems. That way, hopefully you'll feel better about your live and see things from the beautiful perspectives. Enjoy the potentials and possibilities!

So, what's your mindset and have you formed your mindset yourselves?


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Thursday, June 24, 2010

Time For Germany

World Cup 2010 is here and soccer fever is everywhere. As a soccer fan and a player, I followed the world cup games that is currently in the last few games of the preliminary round, a decisive time for teams to break into the knockout stage.

I rememberred when I was 6 years old. It was the time of World Cup 1990. My family watched the final between Germany and Argentina in which the Germans won by 1-0. The goal was scored by Andreas Brehme from the penalty spot. That was my first time watching a world cup match and as a half-German I fell in love with Die Nationalmannschaft with Jürgen Klinsmann being my favourite player.

During the last 20 years I've witnessed Germany's matches. I saw them lift 2 trophies, World Cup 1990 and Euro 1996. I witnessed Klinsmann's upset face when they lost against Bulgaria in 1994 and Croatia in 1998. I've witnessed changes in the trend from having mostly 'experienced' (old) players into the team of young guns Germany is in World Cup 2010.

A new hope emerged this year because the team is a combination of senior (but still young) players from World Cup 2006, Euro 2008 and young players that won the U-21 European Championship last year. With the absence of the great Michael Ballack the team actually reached its peak in creating a creative display of an attacking young team. They won their last game in the group stage last night with Mesut Özil scoring the only goal, a long range volley from outside of the 18 yard box. At the age of only 21, Özil is now the new hope of the whole German nation.

Özil's goal

My Ideal Squad
With the squad Joachim Löw selected for this World cup, the combination will work well with the following scheme.

I prefer Neuer compared to Butt and Wiese because although he's young, Neuer has the mentality expected from a German goalkeeper. Of course if Adler were not injured then he'll be the first option. Philipp Lahm the skipper is a must have for the right back section and I prefer Jerome Boateng to Badstuber because Boateng is more mature playing there. The center backs duo would definitely go to the seniors Mertesacker and Friedrich because they have what it takes to guard Germany's goal.

Moving on the the midfield, I'm putting Schweinsteiger in the left winger position because that's actually his natural position and he'd play best there. I didn't select Podolski because he's currently unstable. The right winger would go to the youngster Thomas Mueller who plays marvellously in the position. The central-midfield duo would go to Khedira and Kroos. The two youngsters have a lot of talent and capabilities to bridge the flow of German attacks.

Mesut Özil would definitely go as the second striker and playmaker behind the single striker Miroslav Klose. Klose is still the best striker in the German team and I'd put Stefan Kießling in the bench to replace Klose because he's had a wonderfull season with the Bayer Leverkusen.

Hopefully with this mix, Germany can win World Cup 2010. Who knows, perhaps Löw is reading my blog. Next game is Germany against "the Three Lions" England. England is performing below expectation during the group stage but I'm expecting a good game between both sides. Of course I'm expecting Germany to advance to the next rounds.

It's been 20 years since the last time Germany lifted the world cup trophy and seeing the fact of finishing in the 2nd and 3rd place in the last 2 world cups, this year is Germany's year.

Deutschland uber alles!!!


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Tuesday, June 22, 2010

And I Say Thank You To The Internet

I started using the internet back in 1998. I was amazed by the things I found on the net back then and I believe that the internet will be very useful in the future. That is also one of the reasons why I took information technology for my bachelor degree and continue to dig deeper into the usage of the net.

After years of wandering around the net, I finally say a really big thank you to the internet because of the story I'll tell you next. In 2010, 12 years after my first use, the internet rewarded me nicely.

My father, Kurt Adalbert Emmerling, is the youngest of four, Bert, Erich, Ingeborg, and himself. He was born in Indonesia on June 29, 1938. He spent his childhood in Bogor, a city south of Jakarta famous for the Raffles Botanical garden. He was really close with his older brother, Erich. Now, just by reading the name, you can tell where I got my middle name from.

Around the late 1940s, my dad lived in a boarding house separated from his family. He went to school and then started working. In the late 1950s, his family decided to go back to the good ol' Germany and contacted him. He went and see them for the last time in 1958. My dad decided to go on and live in Indonesia.

He maintained contact with his brother Erich. They wrote letter to each other. The last correspondence address I knew was in Wolfsburg. Up to a point in time, my dad's letter was returned and so the contact between brothers stopped.

Back in 2006, I chat with a college friend of mine. She lived with her husband in Germany because her husband was sent there to study in one of the universities. During the chat, I asked her to call the operator and asked for my uncle, Erich Emmerling. From the info I got from her, my uncle already passed away in Munich in 2004. I was sad to hear the news and so was my dad.

So life goes on. One day around 2 months ago, I tried googling my name just to see the number of results shown on the screen. Something quickly caught my attention. There was the name Erich Emmerling shown on the screen and the result was from a german website. I used the google translate to view the page and found out that it was an information website for Erich Emmerling's contact. A phone number was listed and guess what, the address was in Wolfsburg, the last town I know my uncle lived in. Since my sister currently resides in Germany, I emailed her the contact details and asked her to check if that is uncle Erich. Her husband called the number and it turned out that the man was the Erich Emmerling we're looking for, my dad's big brother. We were really happy and my dad was really happy because after 52 years, contact was finally re-established.

When I found my uncle, I thank the internet for reuniting our family. No matter what negative item is out there on the net, it is still a very useful thing and I'll keep on trying to improve things you can do on the net.

Thank you internet!!!


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Dedicated to my dad, Kurt A. Emmerling

Friday, June 4, 2010

False Solidarity

Lately there's this wave of protest across Indonesia due to the attack launched by Israel on the Mavi Marmara Ship. Everyone's shouting at the government and condemning the action. Most of the protesters are angry because 12 Indonesians were aboard the ship with 2 injured due to the attack. What they shouted was mostly about helping their fellow Moeslems in in the Gaza strip. They feel that helping fellow Moeslems is the most important thing to do. Nothing wrong with that, but deep inside I feel that this is a false form of solidarity.

Most Indonesian Moeslems feel strong relationship and solidarity with those Moeslems in the middle-east region. A view that, in my humble opinion, blinds them from objectively seeing the actual fundamental root cause of the Israel - Palestine conflict. It's basically a conflict fighting for their territory. It will be the same conflict even if Palestine is inhabited by Hindus or Buddhist or whatever other religion. The conflict has nothing to do with religious views, just like the Iran-Iraq, Iraq-Kuwait, and the allied forces-Iraq conflict. All those conflicts happen because of human greed of oil, not because of religion.

Another thing about the solidarity is that most Indonesian Moeslems felt more moved to help their fellow in other areas like Afghanistan, Palestine, Iraq, and other Moeslem countries than those in their own country. I'm a Moeslem living in Indonesia and I can still see that we have a lot of Moeslems actually need help. Most of them are ignored by their fellow Indonesian Moeslems because their fellows are unable to see that their surroundings actually need help. I don't know whether they're helping those who are far for popularity or whether they're doing it for a good image. What I know is that our own Moeslems who are poor or disabled need help. Take a loot at slum areas. Take a look at the children in the streets, beggars, old poor widows, orphans and other people in need of a helping hand. Those are actually those who need our help most.

Today people are rallying the streets and causes severe traffic jam in the central business district. This actually causes problems for our own country because our own economy cannot perform business smoothly and this is wrong. If you want to do your good deeds by caring about those faraway fellows, fine by me. But please, do so in a way that does not cause problems for your fellows around you. As a Moeslem, I don't feel comfortable with this condition and I support more on doing good deeds by helping our Moeslem fellows in our own surroundings. Help those beggars, street children, and other fellow Indonesian Moeslems. You can see the actual effect and you're helping your country prosper by actually helping those in dire need. That, in my humble opinion, is a very good deed.


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Tuesday, June 1, 2010

Dear Humans...

Welcome to the world full of hatred and greed. A world where differences are treated like sins. A world where violence is the first, not the last resort.

Humans have forgotten so many values, important and fundamental values I should say. Now humans let their anger control themselves and destroy their own world. Some people say that they care about peace, but still they try to make peace by performing violence. In the end, violence is the one that will be harvested.

What happenned to peace? What happened to unity? What happened to tolerance? What happened to the feeling of care for fellow human beings? Even animals care about their own kind and they do not prey their own kind. Why do we humans kill other humans and take advantage from others?

This world is now deteriorating, not slowly but fast. If everyone goes by this direction we're heading into, we'll see the end of mankind anytime soon. When greed, hatred and violence control people's lives, the world is not going to be a better place.

I'm just a regular guy, not some guy with powers to control the world. Now, I'm inviting you all to look back in time, to remember the fundamental values of human lives. Remember that we need to have care, peace, unity, tolerance, and olso see differences as a beauty. Hopefully that way we'll have a better world to live in. Not only for us, but also for our future generations.


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Wednesday, March 24, 2010

Living Now, Not In The Past, and Looking Forward To The Future

There's no one in this world without a past. The people you see today are results of processes happening at previous times. Be it being born, graduating from education, broken hearts, marriages, divorces, traumatic experiences, and a lot of other things, you name it yourself. Everybody writes their own history even though they may not direct it themselves.

All of the historic moments actually formed us into what we are today. Writing this post is also a result of my own personal history. These histories we had, some are nice and memorable, some are average, and some are those moments you wish to only happen in your nightmares. Despite of the fact that the nature differs from one history to another, it shares one characteristic, there will always be lessons behind all the experiences.

Learning the lesson is not always done by most people. This causes the historic moments to repeat itself along the life of those people. Some people had similar accidents twice or three times because they never learn the root cause of the accident. This is easier said than done but is also not impossible. It's just that some people tend to ignore that fact that the lesson is there. They spend too much time in their sadness, looking for scapegoats and regretting their lives. This leads to endless denial of the solution that they actually need, the lessons learned behind each events.

I believe that everything happens for a reason. And that reason is that you should learn from the events happening in your lives, be it positive or negative events. Having emotion is very human. However, we should control it at any time. This, stables us as humans and gives us a more objective view of the events happening. When our emotions control us, we are blurred and distracted from the reality and we can not see the root cause in the right way. So, in order to be able to see the causes clearly, we have to learn to control it. That way, we can have a crystal clear view of the events and a better view of the causes and the lessons behind everything that happens in our lives.

But then the question rises. How do you control your emotion when going through emotional moments? Do you kill that emotion? No, you don't kill the emotion as we humans are emotional beings. Instead, you let it penetrate you fully. Feel the most of pain that you can. That way you'll be fed up of the pain easier and in the end being able to control it. You might be able to say, "Okay, I've had enough pain for now. What can I do to make it go away and prevent it from coming back?". When you've reached that stage, you are able to control your emotion. It might be tough at first. You might spend a lot of time dealing with it. But, through time you'll be able to control your emotions faster.

When you're able to control it and see the lessons behind the moments, LEARN!!! Why? You still have your future ahead of you and you still have to embrace the current moment you're living in. Those leassons learned from your own history are lessons you'll never find in school. Apply the lessons and see for yourself the improvements you can make to your life. The things you experience now are your next lessons for your future so you have to always take a positive mindset of learning from everything.

Bottom line, don't regret your past and don't hate it. If you're someone bad in the past, then you can be a better person now and in the future if you want to learn the lesson.

So, control yourself in all your moments and learn the important lessons behind it. Look forward with those lessons and live positively. I'll meet the improved you in the future.


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