Wednesday, March 18, 2009

Our Lives and Our Pasts

I believe in the butterfly effect. They say that a single flap of a butterfly's wings will contribute a little piece to a tornado happening a year from now. When we apply this to our lives, it means that every little thing we do, will contibute to something that we will experience in the future. I tend to forget this theory when I'm living life.

Everything you do has a connection towards something else in the future. For example, reading this article might cause you to, perhaps, changing your own life path because you finally learn something new. You can see how people tend to blame situations and conditions for what is happening in life. But, you should actually see that something you did in the past contributes to the situation and condition that you're facing. Nothing is happening without any precedent.

So, what can we learn from this? Several things, actually.

First, think carefully when you're about to decide or do something because it may affect your future. It doesn't mean that you have to think about every single details, it's just that you have to think of the big picture of what can happen when you're about to do something. I believe in carpe diem. But, I think of consequences as well every now and then because it can happen sooner or later, right?

Second, try to look back to your actions in the past that might cause the consequences to take place. Most of the time, we humans, forget to reflect back to ourselves and tend to feel victimized by the situation and condition we're facing. Now, this is wrong, and this causes high ego in humans because we tend to blame external factors. Look back to ourselves and ask yourselves, have you done anything wrong in the past.

Third and last, learn from what've happened to you. Whether now or in the past, things that happened in your lives will always have a lesson behind it. Humans do make mistakes, true. But the best of humans learn from their mistake and try to make things better.
It's not easy to live life with all the path that we have to go through. But, you can always make the best of it. Live as if you will die tomorrow, but remember, maybe others won't die tomorrow and they want to have a good memory from you. Think, reflect back, and learn. That way, you can, at least, be a person that tries to see things from all perspectives and, hopefully, you'll be wiser.

Good luck


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Tuesday, March 17, 2009

Mysterious Lessons

As humans live their lives, they went through various events. Some events are pleasant and give them nice memories. But on the other hand, other events are painful and sometimes leave deep wounds inside one's memories.

Some people curse these conditions. I say, that you should be thankful of what ever happens in your life. If you try to look deeper, you can actually find lessons behind every single event that took place in the history of your life. Say for example, you lost the one you love because that person thinks that that person cant be with you. Some might think that it's the end of their lives. Some might curse the condition and grew hatred inside their heart. Some others might be confused and perhaps even be scared of starting relationships. This condition is actually the time for you to reflect and ask yourselves. What can you do to make yourself a better person.

I know it's easy to whine about the conditions you face. But, whining will block you from seeing the actual lesson behind the events in your lives. Whining creates a mental barrier that can actually be bad for your emotional health and also for your self development.

So, what can we do to overcome these conditions?

That one, you have to ask yourselves because the answer depends on your wisdom. If you ask me, I'll say that you have to look around and be thankful first before you do anything else. Why? Sometimes people forget that actually there are people with worse problems compared to what they're going through. Try to be thankful and accept the condition you're facing. Next, you need to have a postive mindset. You need to prioritize in seeing things from the positive sides. I'm not saying that you neglect the negative sides cuz you'll need that negative sides later on in order to reflect. My point is, you need to focus more on the postive sides because that way you can find lessons and views that you cant get when you're seeing the event from negative sides.

I've been through lots of events in my life, both pleasant and painful, and I'm thankful for all those events because those events built me into the person I am now. Am I satisfied with who I am now? The answer would be yes and no. Yes, because I'm a better person compared to who I used to be and I've learned more lessosns of life every single day. No, because the only thing constant is change and I need to change to adjust with the conditions of life. That way, I am making myself a better person every single day.

Now, the question is, how do you define a better condition? Well, my friend, the answer lies inside all of you. It depends on how you respect yourselves. It depends on how you value your lives. It depends on what your expectations are. There will never be a fix answer for this question because we, humans, are unique individuals who have unique point of views.
In the end, ask yourselves, do you want to learn and improve? Or would you rather be upset and being left behind?

The answer lies inside all of you and the choice is yours.

Good luck


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